This single word could change your life
We’ve all been taught to use the three golden words along with many more words always. But, there is one important word that is very much neglected, just like the number zero. When used well, it could really bring a great change in your life! So, what’s THE word?
‘No’ — it’s one word whose importance is less acknowledged. We often see this word as a sign of negativity and all things bad. But, this single world could make your life much better and more beautiful. Trust me, I’m one living example for this.
Here’s some pretext — I am someone who lives life by just one principle:
“It’s okay to regret doing something rather than not trying it at all later in my life”
For me, life is all about experiences. I would prefer a fully packed, shorter lifespan than a sombre and long one. So, it was really really difficult for me to say ‘No’ to anything. I never wanted to miss any opportunity, from participating in a contest to trying something new to going out of my comfort zone to help someone and make someone feel better. But this same attitude was the cause of many troubles too. I was unable to thwart of sticky, pesky ‘so-called’ friends, just because I dint want to regret losing them. I would even hesitate to tell them not to call me in a certain way just because I dint want to regret hurting them. Eventually all of this only added to my burdens and made me uncomfortable. It took quite a long time for me to realise this and learn to start saying no to people, which naturally was very difficult for me.
But it’s been over 2 years now ever since I started saying ‘No’ when I felt that it would disturb my peace of mind/ my focus/ my schedule and the most miraculous thing is, I don’t regret it a bit now. Rather, I’m thankful to have learnt it (the hard way, of course!). What do I really get by saying ‘no’? My life is greatly decluttered now, I say yes only when I mean it, only when I feel like doing something and only when I can. It has reduced tons of emotional load from me and has made my life more focused, objective and comfortable. I no longer have to do something that I hate just because I dont want to hurt someone. I have learnt to put myself before others, which is some essential self-care. In short, it feels like my heart is lighter now and there is no looking back on this decision to start saying ‘no’.
Try it the next time when you really want to say ‘No’, but you say ‘Yes’ due to some reason. You will feel a lot lighter!
